Hi, I'm Steph.

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When you feel like you've wasted time

When you feel like you've wasted time

Something to read when you feel like you've lost or wasted time, when things haven't worked out the way you wanted them to or you're not where you want to be just yet:

What if you needed this time to gain clarity, rest or recharge? You now have a stronger foundation to build on, helping you weather future storms, and you know more about what you do (and don't) want to do.

You might not have done the things you wish you could have during this time, but what if you were learning, growing and collecting information (even if it didn't always feel this way) that will make your future creations so much more meaningful and fulfilling? What if the insights you gained from this struggle could one day help another?

Maybe you needed to take a step back in order to take a bigger step forward, (as Melody Hossaini would say), like a long jumper gathering the momentum they need to fly.

Maybe this was all essential preparation for the great things that are to come, and the things you've learned, experienced and realised will enable you to fully embrace a new adventure.

Maybe you’ve been just fine all along, and anxiety about wasted time is really all tied up in other people’s priorities and expectations.

Maybe “I’ll be happy when…” can become a self-fulfilling prophecy, keeping us stuck in a perpetual state of stress and dissatisfaction, while infusing our actions with a sense of impatience that often works against us.

What if, instead of agonising over past decisions, we gently remind ourselves that this can only really serve to disrupt our present peace? What would happen if we reframed this time as an experiment rather than a waste, giving us valuable data that helped to guide us in a different direction?

Maybe you weren’t in the right place to do the thing you really wanted to do back then; you had to learn to fill your own cup first, to give from a place of abundance rather than drawing on reserves, and get the right energy behind the things you create and do.

Or maybe you were just coming back to centre, learning how to tune into yourself, instead of seeking approval or permission from others, and realising that, as cliché as it sounds, you already have everything you need. 

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Karen Arthur, fashion designer

Karen Arthur, fashion designer